“Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special gift that only YOU have.” –Marie Forleo
I just launched the Chiqui Pineda Fan Page last Friday after seesawing and heehawing about it for months. Try years! :p This goal is part of my bigger goal. It’s my: “Please, woman, enough flying under the radar and just soar closer to the sun because you’re ready. Yes, even if you don’t feel like it!”
These are the three things I’ve learned after I ‘shipped’.
1) Water seeks its level.
Confirmed. I was sharing these ideas with Julie, my biz and life coach of 8 years now. I said to her very Aha-citedly, “As soon as I shipped, I noticed other shippers, brave souls, pro artists coming out of the woodwork and reconnecting with me. These are old friends, colleagues, dear allies in the biz. (Hello and a happy shout out to you, precious peeps! You know who you are. ;*) Not that they’ve been hiding from me, oh no, ma’am. If anything, I was blind to them! Of course, I was. I was the little tiny hermit crabby crab persona hiding inside my shell so how could I see anything?!?” Perhaps I wasn’t looking. Or, OR I refused to look. The mirror was too much. Too bright, too uncomfortable, too honest. Looking in that mirror showed me how far I was from my own personal path, not theirs but mine. They were walking their path and watching them just reminded me that I wasn’t and that hurt. Thanks for coming out. Pat on my back for acknowledging their being there. I see you. Let’s play!
2) Comments are more about the commenter.
I knew this intellectually before. I know it wholeheartedly now. And this was one of the reasons I resisted so much. I was too worried about the…*deep breath*…haters. And there’s always one or two out of a hundred out there, like it or not. You may notice how when somebody puts a comment/reaction on your page, especially if it’s a trigger point, a loaded gun, one that makes you go “Oooof! What’s that all about, friend/family? Did I miss something?!?” It is, more often than not, an issue brewing in their own back burner. It’s not about you. It’s about them. I could not believe how many buttons I’ve already pushed in the past 72 hours of me choosing to put my old chicken self to rest and instead fly like an eagle already. This is a very profound point. We need to talk about this more to avoid unnecessary suffering and pain on the part of the artist: that’s YOU, my dear! Comments are about the commenter. Not you. Especially, MOST especially, if they’re hateful ones. And if they are legitimate and constructive criticism from one you respect and they ‘tear down’ your work, remember this: You are not your work. And repeat to self: I.am.not.my.work. Got it? Good! This way, if some hater/critic/Simon Cowell shoots your work, the work may go down. Momentarily. You, YOU stay up. Maybe ego hurting a bit – we’re human, after all – but up, uppity UP just the same.
3) Light speed ahead!
I made the commitment, as expected with sweaty palms, last week while my coach witnessed and held sacred space for me. Julie who knows me all too well, this journey to here and now, to coming up and promoting a fan page that others may do in a heartbeat, this took me a while. A long while. A very, stretched out, angst-filled while. Oh, we can talk about the reasons, logical, justifiable, etcetera, etcetera and oh, we can chika about the drama. Oh, how we love to do that, especially us who grew up baby-sat by the soaps! But. There’s only one valid reason why this is so: Resistance. As one of my favourite teachers and writers Steven Pressfield says (paraphrasing): The more precious a goal/dream/endeavor is to you and your soul’s evolution, the more resistance you are going to have to overcome! Bada-Bingo! Bells! Boing-boing-boing!
Oooh, let me repeat that one more time just because it’s so yummy juicy truth-y, fruity Truth:
The more precious a goal/dream/endeavor is to you and your soul’s evolution, the more resistance you are going to have to overcome!
And to paraphrase another favorite, Seth Godin: “When you say you’re in resistance, I don’t feel bad for you. Instead, I feel excited. This means you are close, very close to a goal that means a lot to you and there is a chance of it actually getting done, if you so choose for it to get done.”
Right now, I’m in celebration mode. I choose to relish this place because, like anything and everything else, this won’t last. One day this will be old. One day this will be too comfortable and familiar and the lush, juiciness of this experience will wane and then what? Light speed, SPE-E-EED ahead, woman! Get back to Work. Nose to the grindstone and begin again. Oh, by the way, it’s only been 72 or so hours, like I said. But the Aha’s and learnings and synapse connections are worth 72 years. Thank you, heavenly muses. Thank You, God.
Thank you, fun fan!
I don’t know a whole lot about how a fan page works yet but this much I can tell you now:
The CP Fan Page, the space will be filled with courageous expression and wholehearted creations, whether they are in form of a song, a written piece or a photo or a simple pie baked from my experimental kitchen and above all, encouragement and non-judgement, just a lot of bells and fireworks and congo drum songs from me, for you to begin your very own journey, too!
Like my coach, Julie does for me every time we meet, I will hold a sacred space for you every time you come and visit.
Come and JOIN ME and share the love!
As for good old Resistance, it can kiss my brave a** if it wants. 😀
From my heart to yours,